90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days — Habitual Liars, Overprotective Moms & RED FLAGS Everywhere

In Oregon, a man named Forest, 32, builds a life that feels more like a surveillance landscape than a home. He’s set his house up as a smart fortress, cameras humming like watching eyes, because his heart has always lived in the shadows of doubt. Across the world in the Philippines, his girlfriend Sheena, 40, a veterinarian with a calm, capable smile, threads a distance between them that never seems to shrink. They’ve spoken every day for seven years, never meeting in person, a marathon of messages that has never yielded the spark of a single shared kiss. Forest is autistic and ADHD, a man who has never felt the warmth of a kiss or the touch of a real embrace. Yet he clings to a dream of meeting Sheena someday, a dream that has stretched for years, stubborn and stubbornly hopeful.

The question that gnaws at the edges of this story isn’t simply whether love can cross oceans. It’s what love becomes when it’s tethered to a life lived online, when reality is a distant shore and the ship of fantasy sails ahead with a steady, hopeful wind. Sheena herself admits a fragile beauty: she’s never shared a bed with someone, never let a man’s hands loosen the grip of loneliness. The plan when the moment finally arrives—when he travels to the Philippines—is to lose their virginity together, as if their firsts could be timed and packaged for a camera-friendly moment.

But the plot thickens the moment a caregiver’s instinct takes the wheel: Forest’s mother, Molly, a protective force field wrapped in concern. The mother’s gaze is unyielding, and her trust, once given, begins to fracture under the weight of misgivings she can’t shake. She’s the kind of guardian who steps in with a mission: to guard her son from a heart that could be broken by deceit. Molly isn’t content to observe from the sidelines; she insists on walking Forest into this encounter, even riding along to the momentous trip overseas. Her instinct tells her something dangerous lurks in the shadows of Sheena’s world.

Molly’s vigilance deepens quickly as red flags rise like alarm banners: a past betrayal when Forest once visited Indonesia and was left penniless, stripped of the $2,000 he carried, a wound that never fully closed. She saw then a pattern—money vanishing, promises fraying, a web of deceit that could tighten around her son’s future. And so, with a wary heart, she scans the present for signs of fraud. She notices Sheena’s bank account, a shared dream of a life together evaporating under the hands of others who might be siphoning away the precious seeds they hoped to plant: the money meant to seed their future, to fund a life where their K-1 visa might open doors. Over time, Molly’s fear grows into certainty: the same names, the same faces, the same whispers of manipulation that echo from past betrayals.

Then comes a twist that sharpens the edges of trust into a serrated line. On the eve of Forest’s departure, Sheena confesses something that collapses the fragile scaffolding of their bond: the $4,000 saved for their visa, gone, not by accident, but by her own admission, handed to her parents. The revelation lands with a brutal thud. Three lies about money, three betrayals of a shared dream. Molly’s response is fierce, a storm breaking over a calm sea: She calls Sheena a harlot, a name loaded with judgment and fear, urging a breakup that would sever a possible future before it could even begin. It’s not just a betrayal of trust; it’s a battle over who gets to guard whom, who gets to decide what love is allowed to become.

In that moment, the room seems to tilt—the risk of heartbreak perched on a razor’s edge. Forest, meanwhile, sits in the eye of the storm, a man whose own livelihood is murky and who has perhaps depended on Sheena’s earnings, her work ethic, and the life they hoped to build together. Molly’s accusation lands on the table with a brutal clarity: is Sheena merely lying to Forest again, or is there a deeper, more insidious manipulation at play—one that turns love into leverage and trust into a currency that can be spent by others? The narrative spirals, and the tension tightens as Sheena reads the furious texts Molly sends, exposing the raw nerve of a family’s fear meeting a lover’s confession. Sheena admits the earlier lies, the deception about the family’s involvement, and her own complicity in the tangled web that has ensnared them.

The personal drama intensifies as the question shifts from “Are they lying?” to “Who is being harmed by these lies, and why?” Forest, unemployed and perhaps dependent on a partner’s income, stands at a precarious crossroads: is his devotion strong enough to weather the storm of suspicion that Molly has unleashed? Or is it a fragile flame that could be snuffed out by the cold breath of doubt and the pressure of family loyalty? The debate isn’t merely about truth and falsehood; it’s about the kinds of sacrifices people make in the name of love, and the boundaries we draw when fear mistreats trust.

As the saga unfolds, the observer inside us wonders about the deeper currents at work. Is Sheena a victim of manipulation by her own family, who may threaten and control her every move? Or is she a survivor, finding excuses for a past that keeps haunting a future that might never arrive? And what about Molly, the mother who loves her son enough to risk breaking his heart if it means protecting him from a potentially devastating deceit? Her protective instinct is both admirable and perilous, for it can blur into a tunnel vision that refuses to let any light through the cracks of a relationship.

The tale continues to ripple with questions that far exceed a single romance. It asks us to consider the boundaries between reality and fantasy, the ways in which online connections can masquerade as all-consuming love, and the very human fear of losing someone to a con artist dressed in a familiar smile. It invites us to witness the courage and fault lines of people who are brave enough to lay their truths bare on a stage where eyes are always watching, comments always flowing, and judgments always available.

In the end, we are left perched on the edge of a cliff, watching as trust teeters above a churning sea. Will Forest and Sheena navigate this treacherous course and prove that their bond isn’t just a mirage born of distance and desire? Or will the weight of past lies and present accusations drag them down into a history where the future they hoped to build is nothing more than a cautionary tale told in fragments? The screen glows in the dim light, and the room breathes with the sigh of a thousand viewers who know that love, in the age of digital reach and parental protectiveness, can be the most fragile thing of all.